The rosy cloud is not automatically by having your (future) baby in your arms. After a week with your newborn baby, you'll realise there is a great strain on your personal wellbeing. Simply put; you need to be in a place of heart, to feel a love and fuzziness towards your child. A picture of your baby might give you more of an “ah how cute” than the actual, real thing! This feeling might be created purposefully when doing a photo shoot, because real life is extremely challenging and sometimes depressing. There are many hours, challenges, responsibilities, changes, and information to process when we become a mother or father, especially as a mother because it is so physically connected to our whole being and wellbeing.
The rosy cloud is a bubble and, the bubble is a chemical state of the brain during pregnancy and postpartum, needing time to wear out and mature, if it ever really does. This bubble expresses itself in many ways; it feels like you belong in a bubble separated from the real, outside world and probably the outside world feels this way about you too.
When a baby has hit the milestone of 6 months and 12 months you can feel more human, more healed, more awake, more capable, less limited by that damn bubble. But until that time, the bubble of pregnancy and postpartum is going to dictate your life.
Be in the now: Becoming a Mother is an excellent time for self-growth, self-actualisations, and even enlightenment. It truly is a spiritual quest and journey. During the pregnancy and early years you have a higher frequency, a spiritual energy, an access to another realm. The baby’s soul is joining you on the life journey and providing you with a direct source of extra consciousness, you are now two souls on one path! How amazing is that? A bubble can reflect many rainbows. This is the time to search for the rainbows among the rain and rainy clouds.
It’s about living a ‘grandma life,’ taking it very slow, drinking teas, and having cakes.
– A Gynaecologist in Brussels on pregnancy
Besides breastfeeding the other main task of baby is learning to bond and communicate, how do you see this process unfolding if you are not there most of the time? Learning to bond and learning to communicate is both an internal and external process. When baby (or adult) communicate or try to communicate they send out a messages from one inner world to another inner world. Communication can be a combination of words, emotions, feelings, body expressions and sounds from the inside world. The response (or no response) that is given from ‘the outside world’ is significant to the response that will be felt on the inside world. We call this conditioning.
Conditioning is the inner dialogue
We have an inner dialogue with ourselves, between ourselves and with the outside world. But in reality there is no outside world. We attach thoughts, feeling and emotions to the outside world, even to people, so in fact we are only communicating with ourselves. This conditioning stays with us for a life time and is always active, we don’t suddenly lose or gain it as adults. It just becomes a stronger conditioning over the years. There is a constant inner dialogue that takes place between you as a grown up person and your small inner child. We can almost imagine there is no actual adult, there is only the inner child up to an age of seven years old disguised in the body suit of an adult. The adult behaves in a certain way, which is conditioned by society, but on the inside there is the seven year old. The inner child being you with the full recording of your childhood up to seven years of age. After that, it does not matter much what we get or don’t get out of life, because we live in unconsciousness until we hit the age of 21 and again at 28 and probably every 7 years thereafter we get a rude wake up call. The subconscious does not and never does stop recording your life as it unfolds before your eyes. It’s exactly like a tape recorder or a videocamera constantly ‘on’.
Growing up away from Mom
How does this relate to growing up in a day care setting? When your baby is in a day care, the baby will have the (unconscious) recording of ‘being at school’ from the age of six weeks. It’s as simple as that. The subconscious cannot differentiate between different possible experiences or states of being or options which perhaps start at the age of 21 or 28 years or even later on. The younger subconscious has only one option: the one it is presented. It simply records whatever is given from the outside as well from the reflections on the inside.
Hi Human Blog is for the why's and how to's on Conscious Parenting and my daily encounters. My name is Andromeda, I'm a mother to 2 little boys. I live on an exotic island in the Middle-East called Bahrain, famous for its pearls and springs of youth. My favourite motto is "Don't be led by your problems, be led by your dreams". I'm passionate about Inner Peace, Consciousness, Parenting, Arts and Native Cultures. This blog is an experiment with all that. I also expertise in Mindfulness, Emotional Intelligence and the Power of Now in parenting. I've written a book about my Maiden to Motherhood experience, and baby's full potential in their first year, The Diamond Year, including emotional intelligence, holistic health and body awareness. I believe in a new world with old wisdom and human super powers.