Not having children as an individual or couple should not be considered a taboo neither a selfish decision. In the end, so many other projects and upbringings can be ‘your baby’ and ‘your children’. There are unlimited possibilities and a multitude of opportunities for childless parents and ‘pawrents’.
Maybe life is as simple as being parent of one or more animals and discovering life with and through them. It can be your business, your career, your skill or art that you are dedicated to. It can be your teachings. It can be your dedication to taking care of another individual, child or adult. Perhaps you have adopted children (in your home or elsewhere) or you are considering this thought. How about opening a daycare or a new type of school? Are you an aunt, uncle, teacher or mentor to one or more people? This is amazing! You have all the power to parent.
It can be the expression of you through your lifestyle, preferences and hobbies. It can be you as a traveller, researcher, documentarian, journalist, missionary, volunteer. It can be you the nun, monk or guru. It can be you getting over and transforming your demons, addictions, crimes and coming out of the dark. It can simply be you, being who you are. It can be you of other sexual orientation, without children in your life or harming the children in your life. It can be you the extravagant. You the wanderer. You the yogi. We come from many walks of life. And, we have the choice of choosing an activity.
Why not be a pawrent?
Why not to be a parent?
Consciousness is the opposite process of conditioning. Conditioning doesn’t let room for compassion. Letting consciousness do it’s work (which is life) is flow. Flow. Letting it be. Being. I Am. In the present. The Present. When in consciousness, instead of a thousand judgements and expectations, we accept what is for what is. With respect for what is. All is O.K. Without it really being O.K.
Conditioning and Manipulation
Conditioning is the culture of our society and our family. It is what we have been born into and which we are to adapt ourselves to fit in to, especially to fit in. It’s a pattern of a group which as mammals, we live and love to live by patterns. We cannot escape it, especially from a young innocent age, but as adults we can become more aware of the conditioning. We can start to wake up and be awake. As a next step, we try to externalise it instead of trying to unify with it (to not love it so much any longer). As parents we can be aware of the conditioning we had from our parents or society and break the pattern of trying the same on our children and next generations. We can change our legacy. We can become more intelligent about our body, mind, soul on a systematic and dynamic level. We can create happiness and joy and a good world to live an thrive in.
Being like your parent
Most parents that copy their old conditioning will feel frustrated of ‘being like their parent’. A simple example is a parent with anger and that shouts on their child repeatedly. They remind themselves of their parent that was shouting on them and because they were hurt by their own parent, they relive those same emotions. They are on the other side, but they experience the same pain. It’s not a new emotion, it’s an old emotion. It’s always an old emotion. In consciousness we don’t ride, raise or rise by old emotions, we ride by the conscious wave. You will fall and you should slip and fall, but by remaining conscious, you can get back on your feet and autocorrect what you are doing. Stop shouting, replace it with compassion and flow.
Hi Human Blog is for the why's and how to's on Conscious Parenting and my daily encounters. My name is Andromeda, I'm a mother to 2 little boys. I live on an exotic island in the Middle-East called Bahrain, famous for its pearls and springs of youth. My favourite motto is "Don't be led by your problems, be led by your dreams". I'm passionate about Inner Peace, Consciousness, Parenting, Arts and Native Cultures. This blog is an experiment with all that. I also expertise in Mindfulness, Emotional Intelligence and the Power of Now in parenting. I've written a book about my Maiden to Motherhood experience, and baby's full potential in their first year, The Diamond Year, including emotional intelligence, holistic health and body awareness. I believe in a new world with old wisdom and human super powers.