Besides breastfeeding the other main task of baby is learning to bond and communicate, how do you see this process unfolding if you are not there most of the time? Learning to bond and learning to communicate is both an internal and external process. When baby (or adult) communicate or try to communicate they send out a messages from one inner world to another inner world. Communication can be a combination of words, emotions, feelings, body expressions and sounds from the inside world. The response (or no response) that is given from ‘the outside world’ is significant to the response that will be felt on the inside world. We call this conditioning.
Conditioning is the inner dialogue
We have an inner dialogue with ourselves, between ourselves and with the outside world. But in reality there is no outside world. We attach thoughts, feeling and emotions to the outside world, even to people, so in fact we are only communicating with ourselves. This conditioning stays with us for a life time and is always active, we don’t suddenly lose or gain it as adults. It just becomes a stronger conditioning over the years. There is a constant inner dialogue that takes place between you as a grown up person and your small inner child. We can almost imagine there is no actual adult, there is only the inner child up to an age of seven years old disguised in the body suit of an adult. The adult behaves in a certain way, which is conditioned by society, but on the inside there is the seven year old. The inner child being you with the full recording of your childhood up to seven years of age. After that, it does not matter much what we get or don’t get out of life, because we live in unconsciousness until we hit the age of 21 and again at 28 and probably every 7 years thereafter we get a rude wake up call. The subconscious does not and never does stop recording your life as it unfolds before your eyes. It’s exactly like a tape recorder or a videocamera constantly ‘on’.
Growing up away from Mom
How does this relate to growing up in a day care setting? When your baby is in a day care, the baby will have the (unconscious) recording of ‘being at school’ from the age of six weeks. It’s as simple as that. The subconscious cannot differentiate between different possible experiences or states of being or options which perhaps start at the age of 21 or 28 years or even later on. The younger subconscious has only one option: the one it is presented. It simply records whatever is given from the outside as well from the reflections on the inside.
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