"Like any high-performance job, the SAHM needs to be physically and emotionally available for their children all day and every day. The intensity of the job due to the extension of her life with another fragile life along with the psychological and daily challenges, make the job feel like the hardest job on the planet. The SAHM needs another physical and creative outlet in order to stay fit. A physical outlet like walking, running, swimming, yoga, horse riding or anything else, will give the mind and spirit a break of the otherwise tiring routine. I have not been a shining example in the physical exercise department, as many moms with me, as we often fail in taking a time or being disciplined for our wellbeing. I believe though it is probably the one thing that can give a mom me-time, an energizer and time with others, all in one. Some classes provide a mommy and baby postnatal workout or yoga. Yoga at home or with a personal trainer is also a possibility, although it gives the desired physical result, it will mean you are missing out on the social contact with other moms and babies."
Challenges of The SAHM
What are some of the challenges of the SAHM: stay-at-home-mom? And why necessarily a SAHM? Not for the reason of “having no time”, because everyone already had time. For the reason that during the working hours she is taking care of her children, which she considers work, as it is hard and tedious work, and she doesn’t get a physical separation from her children let alone a break on her own when the evening hits. Fortunately or unfortunately, working moms will need to consider that their job time is a big “me-time”, because of physical separations from kids and working on the self. These are two major things SAHM does not get and which makes it very hard to be a “full-on mom”. Not saying, that being a full-on mom is a healthy balance because we all need a balance between home, rest and career; it’s all work for that matter. The society doesn’t allow much division between part-time working mom and part-time working dads. Either time doesn’t allow it or financials don’t allow it, so in all cases, we tend to be stuck unless we have creative solutions to our problems. The trend these times are for moms to become mompreneurs, which means they open a business to combine their passion, finance, and baby at the same time. Usually, it starts out as a one-man show or it involves the help of family members, but it could be a bigger enterprise or franchise that sustains the family and which allows flexible office times and locations. Anything is possible, it requires usually the same or stronger dedication as a regular job at an employer, but you are self-made in an entrepreneurial kind of way. The moms find themselves overworking and overthinking their business as well the challenge of combining the baby’s schedule with their own life is still very challenging and you might still be stuck to the home. Back to SAHMs!
The Challenges:
Who Will Take Care of Baby and You?
You can decide for yourself, to take on being a mom as a full-time profession, but be careful how you balance your new life. This means, you will dedicate your time and efforts to the full-time job, yet you require compensation. Being a full-time mom requires the same, specific skills as any other career to make it throughout the day, week, month, year successfully. The responsibilities are tremendous. Not only caring for your child single-handedly so many hours of the day but also to deal with your own self-care and life with extremely limited resources. The personal challenges are not few and overall moms seem to be challenged, more by the spiritual baggage than the practical care. You wonder how so many parents get through the day safe and sane.
When you talk with other parents they tend to confess that they feel like they won’t make it through another day, week, month, year. I was there too and still until today. Parents are about to lose their sanity. Unfortunately, there is no pay and the level of personal respect for the mom job from yourself and others is particularly low. The absence of colleagues will leave you in a solitude that seems to last forever. Slowly your old identity chips and fades away to be left with only your old troubles. If not quickly replaced by a meaningful, positive new attitude in your mom-life, you can find yourself struggling to rebuild your new self. Your new self is washed down by all the problems you are facing and the challenges ahead. You try to fight the idea that this is really “it” and seek out the solutions to get your social and work life involved in your mom-life. Once you are able to lose your ego and step into the selflessness the mom-hood really is, you have set a foundation for a new, constructive self and sustainable family life. You are a nobody and now, in that void, you have the chance to become yourself. A self with a heart. Your old ego and past life has been completely chipped off and stripped down to its remains.
Source: Consciousness Since Birth, Book II
Challenges of The SAHM
What are some of the challenges of the SAHM: stay-at-home-mom? And why necessarily a SAHM? Not for the reason of “having no time”, because everyone already had time. For the reason that during the working hours she is taking care of her children, which she considers work, as it is hard and tedious work, and she doesn’t get a physical separation from her children let alone a break on her own when the evening hits. Fortunately or unfortunately, working moms will need to consider that their job time is a big “me-time”, because of physical separations from kids and working on the self. These are two major things SAHM does not get and which makes it very hard to be a “full-on mom”. Not saying, that being a full-on mom is a healthy balance because we all need a balance between home, rest and career; it’s all work for that matter. The society doesn’t allow much division between part-time working mom and part-time working dads. Either time doesn’t allow it or financials don’t allow it, so in all cases, we tend to be stuck unless we have creative solutions to our problems. The trend these times are for moms to become mompreneurs, which means they open a business to combine their passion, finance, and baby at the same time. Usually, it starts out as a one-man show or it involves the help of family members, but it could be a bigger enterprise or franchise that sustains the family and which allows flexible office times and locations. Anything is possible, it requires usually the same or stronger dedication as a regular job at an employer, but you are self-made in an entrepreneurial kind of way. The moms find themselves overworking and overthinking their business as well the challenge of combining the baby’s schedule with their own life is still very challenging and you might still be stuck to the home. Back to SAHMs!
The Challenges:
- taking time for themselves in the home
- taking time for themselves out of the home
- taking time with or for their friendships
- taking time for intellectual development and earning money despite job / no-job
- taking time for exercise to keep physically and mentally fit
- taking time to be physically separated from her children to recuperate
Who Will Take Care of Baby and You?
You can decide for yourself, to take on being a mom as a full-time profession, but be careful how you balance your new life. This means, you will dedicate your time and efforts to the full-time job, yet you require compensation. Being a full-time mom requires the same, specific skills as any other career to make it throughout the day, week, month, year successfully. The responsibilities are tremendous. Not only caring for your child single-handedly so many hours of the day but also to deal with your own self-care and life with extremely limited resources. The personal challenges are not few and overall moms seem to be challenged, more by the spiritual baggage than the practical care. You wonder how so many parents get through the day safe and sane.
When you talk with other parents they tend to confess that they feel like they won’t make it through another day, week, month, year. I was there too and still until today. Parents are about to lose their sanity. Unfortunately, there is no pay and the level of personal respect for the mom job from yourself and others is particularly low. The absence of colleagues will leave you in a solitude that seems to last forever. Slowly your old identity chips and fades away to be left with only your old troubles. If not quickly replaced by a meaningful, positive new attitude in your mom-life, you can find yourself struggling to rebuild your new self. Your new self is washed down by all the problems you are facing and the challenges ahead. You try to fight the idea that this is really “it” and seek out the solutions to get your social and work life involved in your mom-life. Once you are able to lose your ego and step into the selflessness the mom-hood really is, you have set a foundation for a new, constructive self and sustainable family life. You are a nobody and now, in that void, you have the chance to become yourself. A self with a heart. Your old ego and past life has been completely chipped off and stripped down to its remains.
Source: Consciousness Since Birth, Book II